Setting Loving Intentions

Updated: May 28, 2018

Bringing awareness to your state of BEing before you set your intentions allows you to align yourself with who you really are, fuel the intention with love and create more loving experiences in your life. There are two states of BEing, FEAR and LOVE. Remember, what you put out into the Universe comes back to you multiplied. Intentions set from a state of fear, can create more fear compared to intentions that are set from a state of love, which can create more love.


A loving state of BEing is best described as an alignment with the essence of who you are. In this state of awareness, rooted in the heart, one can consciously be aware of the purity of intention. Your awareness, as awareness serves, gives, acts, thinks or responds willingly, lovingly without concern for anything in return such as recognition, monetary gain, attention, fame, advancement, safety, or emotional gain etc. Once you discover that you are setting intentions from a state of love, you then begin to expand your state of consciousness, opening yourself up to infinite possibilities and solutions.

How do we define fear, as it relates to our state of being? A fearful state of being is any time you act, think or emotionally respond with the goal to control an outside experience such as, to avoid discomfort, loss, security or loneliness. A fearful based intention might cleverly mask itself as a loving intention but with deeper exploration, it might be revealed that the act, thought or response is to avoid, influence, or in some way try to control a possible outcome. For example, giving a gift to someone. If the intention is set from a state of love, the thought of giving a gift originates out of love, and given in love. That’s it. When we think of giving a gift because it is expected of us, ( we think everyone else will give one, or because they gave us a gift), we are setting the intention of giving, from a place of fear. Thoughts like, “I hope they like the gift. Did I spend enough? Did I spend too much? Do I have the money for this gift?” are other unconscious, attached thoughts that get activated with the intention of buying a gift and establish the fear based state of being.

Intention: Buy a gift Thoughts:I need to buy a gift:How much will I spend? I need to buy gifts for family birthdays. What would my family think if I didn’t buy a gift? No one would buy me a gift. They would think I am cheap. They wouldn’t love me as much. I hope they like the gift:Seeking a specific response (smile). I hope they think I am great, they think I am thoughtful, loving, they’ll like me, appreciate me Did I spend enough?Expectation of how the receiver perceives the gift, will they think I am cheap, not value their relationship with me, not love/like me? Do I have the money for this gift? Did I spend too much? Thoughts of lack, I will not have enough money for other things, suffering, stimulates thoughts of not enough, need more.

In what mental, emotional, physical or spiritual state do you set your intentions?

Bringing awareness to the origin of your intentions can have an enormous impact on your life. If, through this awareness you discover that you are setting intentions from a state of fear, you can then, consciously choose to draw your awareness inward, to the heart and align with the essence of who you are. From this loving state, you could question the fearful intent, by identifying the limiting beliefs that are supporting that fearful state, and transforming those limiting beliefs. The transformation of limiting beliefs is paramount in learning how draw your awareness back inward and maintaining that awareness in daily life.

3 Questions to ask before setting an intention.

  1. What is the result I hope to achieve by setting this intention? What is the motivation behind the intention? Is the act of giving the receiving?

  2. How am I hoping to feel once I set this intention? Am I expecting an intrinsic reward from setting the intention?

  3. What is my present state? Am I in crisis, upset, lonely or am I feeling grateful? Where is my awareness?

By bringing awareness to your state of BEing before you set your intentions you can align yourself with who you really are, fuel the intention with love and create more loving experiences in your life.


Lori Brant is the author of “The Happiness Toolbox: Finding happiness regardless of circumstances,” a motivational speaker, Life Coach and Life Coach trainer who inspires people to tap into their natural state of happiness rather than rely on outside circumstances. For more information about Lori, go to www.LoriBrant.com.

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