Updated: May 28, 2018
If everything is universal source energy (God), everything is perfect just as it is. To say illness is less than, wrong, bad or should be cured is to say God is less than, wrong, bad, and should be cured.
Our journey is to love ourselves completely, just as we are, and by doing so, we are loving God unconditionally.
Response: In theory, I agree, Lori. The problem with illness is the pain and suffering that usually comes with it, isn't it? There must be room for wanting to heal and accepting our illness as perfect at the same time.
Lori Brant: Loving illness is loving ourselves and everything in our experience. If taking medication or seeking treatment feels loving, then that too is loving, as long as I am not thinking my body should be doing something different in the moment,... that is not loving. God is the medication, the treatment, the illness and the pain. Our judgment that either is good or bad is not loving ourselves or God unconditionally and disconnects us from who we really are.
Response: It is very hard not to want your body to be something different when you are in pain or in a weakened body, though. I do not think I achieved that. Not many do. It must be enlightenment, and I mean that seriously.
Lori Brant: It is different than what we are trained to do. Yes. But, how awesome would it be if our “go to thinking” was to focus on how amazing our bodies are? How amazing cancer is to just grow and grow. What if we could embrace the amazingness of that? What if we could just grow and grow spiritually like cancer?
What this different way of thinking does is create a state for health within us. A perfect state of wellness and support for our bodies to do what they do best - heal and regenerate.
We do ourselves and others a disservice when we believe our bodies are wrong, doing something they shouldn't be doing because it creates stress and resistance. I may have an illness, and the illness is going to do what the illness is going to do. I can stay aligned and love myself unconditionally, illness and all or I can disconnect, judge my body, my circumstances and distance myself from who I really am.
Which way is actually more conducive to happiness and wellness?
Response: Because I am a human being having a physical reality, I can quite clearly state that I do not prefer to be in pain.
Lori Brant: I hear you. When I catch myself preferring something different I try to stay in alignment and love the experience, find the gifts in having pain and not having pain, and then, I take Tylenol, lol, loving the whole experience, including the gift of Tylenol.
Response: I like what Neal Donald Walsch says in, Conversations With God. To have desires but not needs is the way of the Masters. To me this means there is no problem with having preferences, but if we believe that we need to have a certain experience in order to simply be, we are falling into the trap. I admit that I certainly have not figured out how to do that with pain very well. But I don't think there is any incompatibility between accepting my arthritis and also desiring to get its message and be pain-free. To me, this is just being human.
Lori Brant: You can’t love and fear something at the same time because fear takes you out of the moment. It is a belief that you don’t want to lose what you have or won’t get what you want.
Response: I do think you can love something and not desire it. :) That is different from fearing it.
Lori Brant: I think that I too still have preferences. I believe that having a preference is still seeing reality as good or bad. Therefore, it is judgment, and as a result, I am out of alignment. But, if I honestly love each the same, (like chocolate vs. vanilla ice cream), then I really am just choosing from two examples of perfection (or ice cream) lol, I can stay in alignment and choose.
Response: When I couldn't breathe well, a while ago, it didn't really feel like I was judging this as good or bad; it felt inherently undesirable. That's how I feel about pain as well. :)
Lori Brant: I know that that experience is very personal to you. I would like to use an example from my own life that can apply to anything that is considered undesirable.
One day I lost my balance and fell, smashing hard as my body landed on the ceramic tiled floor. I was lying on my back on the kitchen floor, alone with no idea how I would stand back up again. My old way of being would be to focus on the pain, start crying and think thoughts like, “Why is this happening to me? Why me? I can’t take this anymore.” My preference would have been to be standing and to not have fallen.
In that moment, I asked with a little sarcasm, “What could possibly be the gift in this?”
As I was lying down on the kitchen floor, sensing my preference to want to stand, I opened myself to loving the experience entirely. I tried to find the gifts in falling. It took me a few minutes, but I noticed the ceiling, a different perspective of my home, I noticed that the cool ceramic tiles felt good on my back, I stretched out. I noticed dirt on the kick plate of the cupboard and wiped it away. I kept doing this until I slowly got back in alignment, moving from preference to choice and calmly moved to try to stand.
That’s one of the reasons I believe there is a difference between loving something completely and preferring something to be different.
Response: I totally agree with your approach! The only caveat I would add is that if you were in acute pain from the fall, I honestly believe you would have felt differently. That's just part of our reality. :)
Lori Brant: There was pain and a big case of “What could possibly be the gift in this?” But this can be done regardless of the experience.
Response: When I prefer to have fish instead of scallops, does it imply that one is bad and the other good? To my mind having a preference among choices is simply choosing among items of (almost) equal "value".
Lori Brant: When one loves everything in their experience, the wanting for reality to be different no longer exists. What I mean by preference is that, when reality presents you fish and scallops, you would be out of alignment if you preferred chicken.
Response: I like the theory of what you are saying, Lori, but the reality is different as we are human and do not take well to pain. Only the truly enlightened do not mind and accept the lot.
Lori Brant: I am passionate about practical metaphysics. Nothing bugged me more than perfectly healthy people telling me to just change my thoughts and I'll feel better. You can read about my very real challenges and pain in my book, “The Happiness Toolbox: Finding happiness regardless of circumstances,” if you wish but what inspired me to find a better way was the true realization that everything, everything that exists is God and if everything is God then everything is perfect, no exceptions.
When I embraced that, and looked for the gifts (God) in everything, (pain, illness, accidents, diagnosis, divorce etc.), I felt good. When I felt good, I stayed in alignment. When I stayed in alignment I was able to clean up my limiting beliefs, and see solutions and possibilities that were blocked.
I am just proposing that it is a real possibility as a human to do it, because I did it. This is not acceptance. It is unconditional love.
I always have a choice. I can be in pain and prefer something else or, I can be in pain and find/feel the gifts in the experience. One choice feels good and I stay in alignment, and one feels bad and I get out of alignment with who I really am. Regardless, in that moment, I am going to be in pain. My choice is how I want to move through it. It is possible to lovingly move through that which seems insurmountable.
Lori Brant is the author of “The Happiness Toolbox: Finding happiness regardless of circumstances,” a motivational speaker, Life Coach and Life Coach trainer who inspires people to tap into their natural state of happiness rather than rely on outside circumstances. For more information about Lori, go to www.LoriBrant.com.